25 Ways to Communicate Respect to Your Husband
Actions speak louder than words. You can say you respect your husband, but he'll have a hard time believing that unless your behavior backs it up. What does respectful living look like?
Here are 25 ways you can communicate respect to your spouse without uttering a word. If you'll make it your habit to do these things, the next time you tell your husband how much you respect him, he won't have to wonder if you really mean it.
1. Choose Joy
It's true: A happy wife makes a happy life.
Please don't use moodiness as an attempt to manipulate your man, but in all things rejoice, because that's the right thing to do. (1 Thessaonians 5:1 & Philippians 4:4)
2. Honor His Wishes
Give weight to what your husband thinks is important.
Make those things a priority that matter most to him, whether it's having dinner ready when he gets home from work or keeping the house tidy or limiting computer time. Don't make him ask twice. (Philippians 2:4)
3. Give Him Your Undivided Attention
Put everything else aside to make eye contact and actively listen.
Yes, I know that women are masters of multi-tasking, but when your husband is speaking to you, make a point to lay other tasks aside, look into his eyes, and listen to what he is saying with the goal of understanding and remembering his words.
4. Don't Interrupt
Have you ever been around a person who won't let you finish a sentence? That gets old fast.
Even if you think you already know what your husband is going to say, allowing him to say it without cutting him off mid-sentence shows both respect and common courtesy.
5. Emphasize His Good Points
Sure, he has his faults (as do you)
Dwelling on them will only make you (both) miserable. Choose instead to focus on those qualities in your husband that you most admire. (Philippians 4:8)
6. Pray for Him
Ruth Graham advises, "tell your mate the positive, tell God the negative"
Take your concerns to God. Faithfully lift up your husband in prayer every day, and you will likely notice a transformation not only in him, but in yourself, as well. (Philipians 4:6-7; 1 Thessalonians 5:17)
7. Don't Nag
Your husband is a grown man, don't treat him like a two-year-old.
Leave room for God to work. You are not the Holy Spirit, so do not try to do His job.
8. Be Thankful
Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.
Don't take your husband for granted. Be appreciative for everything he does for you, whether big or small.Always say thank you. (1 Thessalonians 18; Ephesians 5:20)
9. Smile at Him
Smiles spread happiness.
Smiles have even been shown to create happiness. Smiles are contagious.
And a smile makes any woman more beautiful.
10. Respond Physically
Did you know that the way you respond (or don't respond)
to your husband's romantic overtures has a profound effect on his self-confidence? Don't slap him away when he tries to hug you or make excuses when he's in "the mood". Your enthusiastic cooperation and reciprocation will not only assure him of your love, but will make him feel well-respected, too. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
11. Eyes Only for Him
Don't compare your husband unfavorably to other men, real or imaginary.
It is neither fair nor respectful and will only breed trouble and discontent. Avoid watching movies or reading books that might cause you to stumble in this area, as well. (Psalm 19:14; Proverbs 4:23)
12. Kiss Him Goodbye
I once read about a study done in Germany which found that men whose wives kissed them goodbye every morning were more successful than those who weren't kissed.
Success and respect often go hand-in-hand, so be sure to send him off right, and don't forget to greet him with a kiss when he returns home, for good measure. (2 Corinthians 13:12)
13. Prepare His Favorite Foods
When planning meals, give special consideration to your husband's preferences.
Although the rest of the family is not overly-fond of spaghetti, my husband loves it, so I try to make it at least two or three times a month as a way to honor him. (Proverbs 31:14-15)
14. Cherish Togetherness
I love to sit near my husband, whether at home or away.
Our church shares potluck dinners every Sunday afternoon, and although the men and women normally sit separately to visit, I like to position myself close enough to my husband that I can listen to the conversation, as I think everything he says is so interesting. At home, I'll take my book or handwork to whatever room in the house he's working in, just to be close to him, because I enjoy his company, even when neither of us is talking.
15. Don't Complain
Nobody wants to be around a whiner or complainer.
It is grating on the nerves. Remember the serenity prayer: accept the things you can't change, courageously change the things you can, seek wisdom to know the difference.(Philippians 2:14)
16. Resist the Urge to Correct
Please. Please. Please. Don't ever do that to your husband
— or to anyone else, for that matter! I know one wife whose spouse can't tell a story without her stopping him fifteen times to correct inconsequential details: "It wasn't Monday evening, it was Monday afternoon.... It wasn't blue, it was turquoise.... He didn't ride the bus, he took a shuttle." (Proverbs 17:28)
17. Dress to Please Him
Take care of your appearance.
Choose clothes your husband finds flattering, both in public and around the house.
18. Keep the House Tidy
To the best of your abilities, maintain a clean & orderly home.
Seek to make it a haven of rest for your entire family. (Proverbs 31:27)
19. Be Content
Do not pressure your husband to keep up with the Jonses.
Take satisfaction in the lifestyle he is able to provide for you. (1 Timothy 6:6-10; Hebrews 13:5)
20. Take His Advice
Make every effort to follow your husband's advice.
Do not dismiss his opinions lightly, especially when you've asked for his counsel in the first place.
21. Admire Him
Think kind thoughts toward him.
Voiced compliments and heartfelt praise are always welcome, but you should also make it your habit to just look at your husband in a respectful, appreciative way. He'll be able to see the admiration in your eyes. (Luke 6:45)
22. Protect His Name
Honor your husband in the way you speak of him to family/friends.
Guard his reputation and do not let minor disagreements at home cause you to speak ill of him in public. Live in such a way that it will be obvious to others why your husband married you in the first place. (Proverbs 12:4; 22:1)
23. Forgive His Shortcomings
Please do not hold grudges against your husband.
In the words of Ruth Bell Graham, "A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers." Do not allow a root of bitterness or resentment find a home in your heart. Forgive your husband freely, as Christ has forgiven you. (Mark .11:25; Matthew 18:21-35)
24. Don't Argue
You are not always right!
& you do not always have to have the last word. Be the first to say, "I'm sorry." Be willing to accept the blame. It takes two to argue, so "abandon a quarrel before it breaks out." (Proverbs 17:14; 21:19; 25:24)
25. Follow His Lead
If you want your husband to lead, you must be willing to follow.
Neither a body nor a family can function well with two heads. Learn to defer to your husband's wishes and let final decisions rest with him. (Ephesians 5:22-24)
Proverbs 18:22 tells us, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."
Do these 25 things consistently, and your husband will never have trouble believing that fact.
Pastor Marie Myers